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Posted by Jane Beal on November 7, 2009

Recently, my friend and fellow poet, Marie-Elizabeth Mali, wrote a poem from the point of view of an Eastern European woman who was trafficked to the Middle East. When I read it, I vividly remembered the women I met when I was in Moldova and their stories. 70% of orphan girls are trafficked out of Moldova and sold for sex.

Mimi Chakarova is an investigative journalist who is finding the women who have survived this sex trafficking nightmare and creating documentaries that tell their stories. They’re at www.priceofsex.org.

What will it take for us to work together and put an end to the world-wide sex-trade?

Dr. Jane Beal
JSASSN International

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August/September 2009 Update

Posted by Jane Beal on October 5, 2009

In August, I met a very courageous woman, a rape survivor, who has since become a friend. She had been attacked by two military men in the hotel where she was staying in New York. Another man from the hotel was key in identifying the two perpetrators who are now being held on charges that will be deliberated upon in military courts, where the penalties for crimes are much more severe than in the civil courts. This woman’s story reminded me of the tension between violence and honor in the military.

Rape is far more prevalent in the military than is publicly acknowledged. In fact, in March of this year, I met the poet Brian Turner, who served seven years in the military and authored Here, Bullet, and he spoke of the military hospitals in California with wards specifically for treatment of female soldiers suffering from posttraumatic stress as a result of being raped by their fellow American soldiers or officers while serving overseas. A smaller and even quieter ward is reserved for male soldiers who were raped by men as well.

I have been praying for my friend, her court case, and for the men and women of the US military who have acted out sexual violence against others or been victimized by it.

I’ve also been praying for an end to prostitution and sex trafficking in Chicago, especially for the closure of the so-called “gentlemen’s clubs.” I have been doing some research into ministries that seek to help the estimated 16,000-25,000 prostitutes in Chicago. I have been thankful to discover the program called Footprints sponsored by the Christian Community Health Center, which I will write more about in my next post.

At the same time, I’ve been doing research on the prevalence of incest in cases of childhood sexual abuse as preparation for writing an article on the subject for Moody Bible College Professor Andrew Schmutzer and his book, Ministering to the Sexually Abused. I have been learning many useful things that I hope to synthesize in my essay. The essay and the book as a whole are intended to help ministers, counselors, and others working in church and para-church serving people who have experienced abuse. I continue my work on my own Testimony as well.

Just to follow up on the case of Johnie Dale Damron from previous updates: In Adams County, Ohio, Damron had a pre-trial hearing on August 20, and on September 10, he was convicted of failing to register as a sex offender after he moved to West Virginia. He was sentenced to 10 months in prison, but since he had already served time in jail while delaying his court dates, he will be released on December 12, nine weeks from today. He is currently being held at the Correctional Reception Center in Orient, Ohio and will not be transferred to prison due to the shortness of his remaining sentence. He will be required to pay for all court costs, to have his DNA tested to see if it matches any evidence stored in a government database of unsolved sex crimes, and upon release, to register as a sex offender wherever he chooses to live. He is currently registered in the Ohio Sex Offender registry where his status shows as “incarcerated.” His information can be accessed by entering his name, Damron, and county of commitment, Adams.

On a related note, I filed a report with the Oakland Police Department detailing the sexual abuse I experienced as a child at my father’s hands in 1978. As I already knew, the statute of limitations does not allow the police to investigate this matter or make an arrest nor does it allow the courts to prosecute. However, the officer I communicated with has forwarded my report to Child Protective Services (CPS) in Solano County, California. My counselor, who is a mandated state reporter in cases of sexual abuse, has similarly filed a report with CPS. I do not expect anything to come of these reports due to the amount of time that has passed since the original abuse, but I have followed JSASSN protocol in filing the reports, and they may prove to be useful references in the future.

Dr. Jane Beal
JSASSN International

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HUSH by Nicole Braddock Bromley

Posted by Jane Beal on September 25, 2009

I first heard Nicole Braddock Bromley speak in January 2006 in Edman Chapel at Wheaton College. With courage and grace, she shared her testimony of surviving childhood sexual abuse and incest at the hands of her stepfather. Part of her story is about her mother’s powerful role in rescuing and removing her from danger.

When Nicole told her mother what her stepfather was doing, her mother believed her and immediately left the home with her daughter. Nicole’s stepfather was an apparently outstanding member of the local church community in leadership, and no one, including his own wife, realized what he was doing to his daughter in secret. He successfully deceived everyone around him. But when the truth came out, he lost his cool. He came after his wife and daughter when they left and tried to harm them. By God’s grace, they remained safe and protected. Later, tragically, the man did not repent and change his ways but instead took his own life, ashamed of the truth that had been made public.

Nicole’s story makes it clear that mothers can be deceived just like everyone else when it comes to the abuse their husbands are perpetrating against their children. Once they learn the truth, mothers have a choice about how to respond to it. They can believe their young and innocent children and courageously take action. Or they can retreat into fear and denial, blaming the child who was victimized instead of holding their husbands, the perpetrators, responsible for their sinful actions and criminal behavior.

The courage it takes to believe should not be underestimated. A married woman derives much of her sense of identity from her husband, her financial security is tied to his, and her emotional health and well-being is supposed to be reinforced by her husband but is being drastically undercut when he is sexually involved with their children. However, many mothers do have this courage. As I recently read in the book Rocking the Cradle of Sexual Politics, when men are brought up on criminal charges for childhood sexual assault, it is usually because their wives had the courage to report their husbands’ devastating actions to the police and follow through in the courts.

The author of Rocking the Cradle, a feminist without religious affiliation, is very clear in her opinions and assessment of the way that mothers have been maligned by psychologists and the justice system. In her view, which is based on her research into court cases dealing with childhood sexual abuse and their outcomes, mothers are called passive by psychologists and often blamed by the courts for failure to protect their children from their abusive husbands. The children are sometimes removed to child protective custody rather than given to either of their parents in such cases. Sometimes the mother who reported is labeled “crazy” by her husband’s attorneys, and as a divorce proceedings go through, the children are given to the fathers who abuse instead of the mothers who dare to report. The situation in the courts can be very bleak indeed, especially when abusive fathers fight for themselves so adroitly there.

Not all mothers are protective. Sadly, some are profoundly emotionally unhealthy and cannot deal with the truth when it is revealed. They may have been abused themselves as children. For it is a strange but consistently observed psychological pattern: many sexually abused girls grow up to marry abusive husbands. How can women who never resolved their own childhood abuse experiences truly help their own children when they suffer the same fate?

Other mothers who try to protect cannot because of circumstances beyond on their control. Children who have been abused by their fathers inevitably experience feelings of rage not only at the abusers, their fathers, but their mothers, too, partly because they’re reacting emotionally from a child’s innocent belief that their mothers could or should be all powerful — as they are in the child’s life but aren’t in the real world.

Abuse has a terrifying and destructive impact on entire families, but Nicole’s story is one of hope for children trapped in incestuously abusive homes. Since statistics suggest that approximately 80% of childhood sexual abuse cases involve a father or stepfather perpetrator and a daughter victim, it is clear that the mother’s response to the situation can make the pivotal difference in her child’s immediate rescue and long-term recovery.

To read Nicole’s story, visit her website or pick up a copy of her book.

Dr. Jane Beal
JSASSN International

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Identity Ministry and Irene Beany’s Story

Posted by Jane Beal on August 25, 2009

I recently read Irene Beany’s story of recovery from horrifying ritualized sexual abuse. It’s a miracle she’s alive today. Her ministry, “Identity Ministry,” has some close parallels with JSASSN International. To learn more, visit:

http://www.identityministry.org/Story.html

Dr. Jane Beal
JSASSN International

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“Psalm”

Posted by Jane Beal on April 8, 2009

April is National Poetry Month. As a poet as well as an overcomer of childhood sexual assault, I want to give God the praise today for His healing power. He saved my soul, He redeemed my life, and He strengthened my body so that I can serve Him and speak the Truth that sets others free.

To God be the glory.

PSALM

In the morning, my spirit sings to God the secret
of my innermost being, my hidden heart, our sanctuary

All my longings lie open before You

I bring to You the sacrifice of thanksgiving when desire
burns bright for a new life in my body, in my soul, our being

All my longings lie open before You

You hear what cannot be spoken, You hear what hopes
I have that no one else can see or know

All my longings lie open before You

For You came into the darkness when the night was full of fear
when the silent scream rose to Your throne, You came

When I was powerless, terrified, when the Enemy
seized my throat and I couldn’t breathe, You came down

You held my soul when I could not bear the shame,
and You breathed my memories of myself back into me

All my longings lie open before You

O God, Savior, Redeemer, Almighty One, Your Name
be glorified for reconnecting the tree to the roots

All my longings lie open before You

I praise You for showing me the mysteries of the tidepool
and healing the pain in my eyes and my face and my mouth

All my longings lie open before You

You gave me a vision of hope and a future, pure
shining in white, marveling with joy, with my baby on my back

All my longings, all my longings, O God, lie open before You

So I am singing to You, Holy Wondrous Helper, who sustains my life,
who makes me overcome the pain of the past by Christ’s power
and live by the Spirit in continual VICTORY.

Jane Beal
sanctuarypoet.net

“All my longings lie open before you,” Psalm 38:9

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Dia de Luz

Posted by Jane Beal on April 2, 2009

Last night, Brad Corrigan and non-profit Christian ministry Love, Light, and Melody came to Wheaton College to speak, play music, and raise awareness about the needs of people living in extreme poverty in La Chureca (“the scavenging place,” i.e. the city trash dump/landfill ) in Managua, Nicaragua.

Brad’s documentary film “Dia de Luz” vividly shows the circumstances this community of 1200 people faces daily: hunger, malnourishment, inadequate clothing, almost no educational or vocational training opportunities for children or adults … all in a toxic environment that includes burning tires, medical waste, broken glass, rotting carcasses of dead animals – and more and worse.

Because of the extreme poverty, children are especially vulnerable to victimization, and child prostitution is an issue.

Brad told the story of Eliana and her two younger sisters, Mercedes and Anjuria. Eliana’s parents had no money to feed their family. When the drivers of the dump trucks would come into La Chureca, the children, including eight-year-old Eliana, would jump on the back of the trucks until the trucks stopped and dumped the garbage. The children wanted to be the first to sort through the latest trash so they could find whatever might be good for food or sale (scrap metal, for example). The drivers would give money to the girls for sex. That’s how Eliana and her sisters became child-victims of sexual assault who learned how to work as prostitutes in order to feed themselves. All three girls, now in their teens, are HIV-positive.

But there is a ministry to prostitutes and their children in Managua, Nicaragua: House of Hope. House of Hope provides a residence program, vocational training, and the encouragement that God is able to redeem any situation, no matter how devastating. Mercedes, who is recovering from an addiction to crack that her pimp fostered in order to get her to work 12-hour days as a prostitute, is now a part of this ministry house.

Please pray for Love, Light, and Melody and for House of Hope ministries, for the people they are serving in Nicaragua, and for the end of poverty, prostitution, and the sexual assault of children in La Chureca.

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The Needs of Orphans

Posted by Jane Beal on March 20, 2009

In the scriptures, it says: “true religion is to help the widow and orphan in their distress and to keep oneself unspotted from the world.” I’ve been thinking about how true this statement is. I’ve been thinking specifically about the needs of orphans.

Last month, Wheaton College celebrated Missions into Focus Week. An organization called Orphan Helpers (www.orphanhelpers.org) was present on campus. From Adam, I learned the story of Claudia, one of the orphans being helped by this ministry:

“Claudia’s mother abandoned her when she was only six days old. Her adoptive mother abused her; she would hit her with a wet rope or an electrical cord. Her stepmom burned Claudia school uniforms at all her books when she was six years old and said she didn’t deserve an education.

The next year her stepbrother raped her and threatened to kill her if she told anyone. When she was 10, she ran away from the house and asked to stay with her sister. Her sister locked her in a closet for two weeks. When she finally unlocked the door, Claudia ran away again and went to the police. They took her to Mujeres Adolescentes, a center for teenage girls, for her protection.

Claudia moved into the hope house in the fall of 2007. She loves to dance and sing. She stuff on the outside, but when she feels like she can trust you, she opens up beautifully. She connects instantly with the children and the centers, especially the younger ones. Claudia attends a school for older kids who are at an elementary reading level.”

As Claudia’s story so vividly shows, children who have no parents do not have a first line of defense against victimization. They are intensely vulnerable. They need people who will love them and care for them with the love and care of God the Father.

My first JSASSN International mission was to orphans in Moldova, Eastern Europe, where 70% of orphan girls are sold into the sex trafficking industry every year. Moldova is a case study in how vulnerable orphans are to sexual abuse, assault, and trafficking. But it is not just a Moldovan problem. Orphans are at risk in countries all over the world.

Let’s pray for the needs of orphans and help to meet them as the Holy Spirit directs us.

Dr. Jane Beal
JSASSN International

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Redemption: A Sermon

Posted by Jane Beal on October 13, 2008

On September 13th, I preached a sermon entitled “Redemption” at my home church, Church of the Savior, in West Chicago. In it, I testified to the redeeming power of God at work among women freed from the trokosi system in Ghana, West Africa and in my own life as I have recovered from sexual abuse and assault. To hear this sermon, click on:

http://www.friendsofthesavior.org/2008/20080913-JB.mp3

The above address is a connection to Church of the Savior’s home-page (www.friendsofthesavior.org) and the section on which interested friends may find audio recordings of all sermons preached at our church.

The text of my sermon, “Redemption,” is given below.

REDEMPTION

Yosef’s Story:

“Even though you intended to do harm to me, God intended it for good, in order to preserve numerous people, as he is doing today. So have no fear” (Genesis 50:20-21a, RSV).

These are the words of Yosef, son of Ysrael, son of Yitzak, son of Avraham when his brothers come to him seeking forgiveness for the evil they did to him in his youth.

These brothers were the same men who assaulted Yosef, sold him into slavery, and pretended he was dead. Not only did they strip him of his beautiful robe, they stripped him of his innocence, his freedom, and his sense of security in the world. They were driven by hatred and jealousy and rage that came, in part, from the fact that their father loved Yosef more than any of them—and that their father loved Yosef’s mother, Rahel, and hated their mother, Lea. They cast their younger brother first into a pit and then out of their lives. In one swift series of events, they physically abused Yosef, they violated his will, and they robbed him of his dignity as a young man. They overpowered him. They shamed him. Then they sat down to eat together while he was alone and thirsty in the bottom of a pit in the desert without water. Finally, instead of killing him like they originally planned, they decided to sell him, half-naked, to Midianite slave-traders and profit on his flesh. Yosef was then taken out of his homeland and into Egypt where he suffered first as a slave and then as a falsely-accused prisoner for thirteen years.

Yet, when his brothers approached him asking for forgiveness, he could say to them: “Even though you intended to do harm to me, God intended it for good, in order to preserve numerous people, as he is doing today. So have no fear.”

You see, the greatest trauma in Yosef’s life was not the end of his story. The pit, the pain, the powerlessness – the enslavement and the suffering – were not the end of Yosef’s journey. The God of the Universe was watching when all these things happened, and He had a plan to redeem. God had a plan to redeem not only Yosef, but every living member of his family, all the citizens of Egypt, and thousands upon thousands of people from surrounding nations.

As we well know, Yosef did not remain a slave or a prisoner in Egypt all his life. Yosef was delivered by the hand of God. God gave him dreams in his youth of what would happen in his future. He gave Yosef the power to interpret dreams. He elevated him in the court of Pharoah and gave him a position of leadership. In that position, God gave Yosef authority over Egyptian agriculture, so that Yosef was able to preserve the lives of thousands of people during a severe famine that went on for seven years. Yosef married and had two sons. So, in his personal and professional life, Yosef prospered. During the days of famine, he was reunited with his father and all his brothers, and the entire family was reconciled one to another. Yes, God had a plan to redeem.

Tonight, I want you to know that God has a plan to redeem your life and every painful experience you have been through in the past and every difficulty you are suffering through now. The God of the Universe has a plan to redeem. His love for you is very great.

The concept of redemption: (getting the theology straight)

Now, as we begin to discuss redemption, I want us to get the theology of redemption straight. Redemption does not mean that God planned or caused the evil that happened to Yosef—or to us. God is light, and there is no darkness in Him.

Redemption does not mean that the evil Yosef’s brothers did to him—or that others have done to us—was somehow justified or excusable just because God brought good out of it. From a fully-informed, Judeo-Christian, biblical perspective, if the means are evil, the means never justify the ends. God hated the sin done to Yosef just like He hates all sin that we do or that is done to us.

Furthermore, redemption does not mean that sin is necessary to God’s plan. The wrong Yosef’s brothers perpetrated against him—and that others have perpetrated against us—did not have to happen for God to accomplish His purposes in Yosef, in his family, in Egypt, in the world—or in us. Sin is in no way necessary to God for God to accomplish His sovereign purpose.

But neither is sin any impediment to God’s will.

God knows that we live in a sinful world, and so when the effects of sin traumatize and damage our souls and our circumstances, our relationships and our cultures, God has a plan to redeem.

Tonight, I want to share some stories with you about redemption.

I grew up in churches where we used to have “testimony services” some Sunday nights, and people would encourage one another by telling the stories of what God had done for them. There’s a basis for this practice in scripture. In Revelation, it says: “They overcame the devil by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony.” Does anyone here want to overcome the devil tonight? I need to hear some amens. Jesus, the Lamb of God, has overcome the world. He is the Word of our testimony. And when we testify about His redeeming power, freedom comes not only to us, but to all those who hear in faith and believe in Jesus’ Name.

Let me tell you the first story.

International Needs in Ghana, West Africa:

This summer, I saw the evidence of God’s redeeming power being made manifest in Ghana, West Africa.

I’ve been blessed to visit Ghana before to attend the wedding of my dear friend, Kate Na-aku Tetteh, and to help Kate when she was traveling from San Francisco to Accra with her newborn twins, my godchildren, Reina Akweley and Renee Akuorkor Tetteh. This time, this summer, I went to Ghana because the Wheaton College Office of Christian Outreach sent me there to visit to student interns working at the International Needs Network Vocational Training Center in the Volta River region of Ghana.

I first learned of the work of International Needs in Ghana from the Rev. Walter Pimpong when he came to speak at Wheaton College in the fall of 2007—one year ago. He spoke of the “trokosi system” that is currently practiced among Ewes and Dangmes of the Volta Region. “Trokosi” is a word that means “slaves of the gods.” In the trokosi system, girls and women are handed over by their families to village priests as sexual slaves to pay for the crimes of their ancestors.

When I was in the Volta region, I learned the story of a woman named Mercy who works with the International Needs in Ghana and regularly speaks on behalf of the trokosi who have been set free and those who are still in slavery. Mercy herself was trapped in the trokosi system until she was redeemed.

Mercy’s Story

Mercy Senahe, an Ewe, grew up in the Volta region of Ghana, West Africa. When Mercy was about eight years old, the fetish priestess cursed her family after the priestess lost a gold earring because she believed that Mercy’s grandmother had stolen it. To pay for this “theft,” and avoid the fatal consequences of the priestess’s curse they so deeply feared, the family planned to give Mercy, the youngest virgin daughter in the family, to the village shrine in Avakpe.

Mercy has said of this event: “My age-mate came to tell me that I would be sent to some place and I would never come back. Some days later they told me that I should bathe because I was going to some place. I remembered what my age-mate had told me, so I went to the bush to hide. I stayed there until the night. When I came out, my grandfather beat me roughly. 
That same night they took me to cross the river to the shrine.”

After Mercy arrived in the next village, she fell asleep on the ground. When she woke up, her family was gone. Women from the village shrine came and placed bracelets on her wrists and ankles. They showed her how she must worship each of the idols in the shrine. Mercy had become one of the “trokosi,” a slave to the gods.

Her new name in the shrine was “Gold.” She was named after the item her grandmother had been accused of stealing. She was the sacrifice meant to be appeasement for that crime, and she bore its name.

But Mercy did not understand this at the time. How could she? She was only eight years old. She really had no idea why she was in the shrine. But she quickly learned to be terrified in her new environment.

In the Avakpe shrine, Mercy was sexually assaulted repeatedly by the priest, sometimes as part of an occult ritual meant to symbolize the “marriage” between the trokosi and the shrine gods.
At about age twelve, Mercy gave birth to her first child, fathered by the priest. She would eventually have four children by him. The priest had already fathered dozens of children borne by the other trokosi in the shrine.

Even as a young pre-teen, Mercy had to farm to support herself and her children. She was forced to work all day before she was allowed to eat. She could not go to school. Her children were not allowed to go to school either, but were instead forced to work with her on the farm to feed themselves.

Mercy tried to escape, but her family sent her back to the shrine. She was completely trapped in slavery.

But when Mercy was in her early twenties, the International Needs team in Ghana (ING) team came to negotiate for Mercy’s freedom.

Intervention: International Needs Ghana, freeing the trokosi

Typically, the International Needs team in Ghana involves all the stakeholders in the redemption process: the priest, the women, their children, their families of origin, the tribal village communities, the International Needs negotiators, and a Ghanaian government representative. Native Ghanaian negotiators explain to the priest why he must, by law, release the trokosi who wish to be free from slavery. Sometimes the priest is compensated for releasing the women. In such cases, the women are literary “bought back” –literally redeemed— from slavery.

Once the priest agrees to set the women free, he performs a ritual inside the shrine to appease the idols. Then, a second ceremony is performed, in which it is declared to the women, their families, and their village communities that they are free: no longer trokosi, no longer slaves. They are set free. The government official bears witness to this and signs a document to this effect.

The freed women often return to their families of origin and the villages where they formerly lived. International Needs workers talk with their families to facilitate this re-integration process—and, again, they can do this effectively because the workers are native Ghanaians. International Needs also offers education and work-skills training to the women through their Vocational Training Center (VTC) in Adidome, Ghana so that the women can economically support themselves and their children.

I was at the Vocational Training Center myself this summer, and I saw the amazing work of teaching and learning going on there. Women can learn mat-weaving, soap-making, bread-baking, hair-dressing, cloth-dyeing (“batik”), and dress-making, among other things. Their older children attend schools in the Adidome. Their younger children are cared for in an on-site nursery. They themselves have the opportunity to learn reading, writing, and small business skills as well as health-care.

Women not only receive vocational training, but on-going counseling and psychological support. They are provided with one-on-one and group counseling to help them overcome their intense fears and traumatic experiences. Many of them have been told that if they ever speak of what went on in the shrine, they or one of their family members would die. But they do become free of these fears gradually.

And the International Needs staff shares the knowledge and love of Jesus with these freed women, and many of them become passionate Christians. Not only does the staff share with the women, the staff goes out into the villages and invites whole villages to accept Jesus Christ as Lord. As Ewes and Dangmes and others become Christians, they turn away from the trokosi system, and even greater freedom comes to the tribes and the cultures of the Volta Region of Ghana and the neighboring country of Togo.

Today, Mercy is one of these Christians, telling her story and helping to change the lives of hundreds of people who need to know of the sovereignty of God, the love of Jesus, and the power of the Holy Spirit.

My Story

Now I want to tell you a second story, part of my testimony, because I want us to see together that God’s redeeming power is not just for Yosef, who lived thousands of years ago in Egypt, or for Mercy, who lives thousands of miles away in Ghana, but it is also for us, the members of Church of the Savior living today right here in Chicagoland. God’s plan to redeem is not only for the whole world, it’s for you, each of one of you here with me tonight. His love for you is very great.

Now I’m just going to tell it like it was so I can get to telling it is now. This is my testimony, and I’m giving it with full confidence in Jesus, my Savior, who said, “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.”

When I was eight years old, like Mercy Senahe, I was abused, and I was sexually assaulted. A friend’s grandfather, a man who has since died, and my best friend’s uncle, a man who is now a registered sex offender, were the perpetrators. A girl from my church, who was herself abused, acted out many of her issues with me and more than half a dozen other children we knew.

These experiences were like being thrown in a pit. In many ways, they stripped me of my innocence, my freedom, and my sense of security in the world. They physically injured me, they violated my will, and they robbed me of my dignity, my sense of beauty and self-worth, as a young girl. They overpowered me. They shamed me. They sold me into an emotional slavery to a pain so deep that I can only express it by saying I wanted to die, and I nearly took my own life four separate times, the first time being when I was just nine years old.

But the greatest trauma of my life was not the end of my story. The pit, the pain, the powerlessness—the enslavement and the suffering—were not the end of my journey. The God of the Universe was watching when all these things happened, and He had a plan to redeem. God had a plan to redeem not only me, but everyone who calls upon His Name to be saved.

I can tell you truthfully that the Holy Spirit has faithfully guided me through a process of healing.

The story of that healing process is a long story, and I can’t tell you all of it now, but I can tell you the steps that were involved. First, the abuse had to stop. I had to feel physically and emotionally safe. I had to recognize the truth about what had happened to me, and I had to make a decision to seek help and healing. I had to fully remember my experiences and integrate them with my present understanding of myself. I had to learn to express all the emotions my memories provoked in healthy ways. Through the healing process, I gained understanding, and I gained the courage to tell my story. I grew stronger, I confronted those who had harmed me and those who had not done anything to stop the harm, and I forgave those who had abused and assaulted me. I began to see myself as I am, and as you are, in Christ. We are overcomers.

This summer, when I went to Ghana, West Africa, I shared my testimony of overcoming sexual abuse and assault with more than sixty women who were formerly trapped in the trokosi system—women who have now been set free and who have accepted Jesus as their Savior and who are healing and growing and prospering by the grace of God. I shared my testimony in detail, and in very short sentences that were translated into Ewe and Dangme.

I played my flute at different points in my testimony. The first song I played was called “Give Me Jesus,” and I talked about how I saw Jesus at the time of my assault, and he held my soul until it was over. The second song I played called “Evidence of Your Glory,” and I talked about how suffering can cause us to wonder if God is truly good and if He truly cares for us, but in the end, He shows us that He is redeeming everything and showing His glory.

Finally, I danced to a song called “Surrounded,” and I was so glad that I chose to dance a praise dance, because it spoke across the language barrier about how fear devastates us but the love of God surrounds us and lifts us up so that we are strengthened and made whole.

Tonight, I want you to know, whatever you have been through in the past, whatever you are going through now, God has a plan to redeem. What Yosef said to his brothers, the very men who attacked him but later threw themselves down at his feet praying for mercy, is very true:

“Even though you intended to do harm to me, God intended it for good, in order to preserve numerous people, as he is doing today. So have no fear” (Genesis 50:20-21a, RSV).

Praise the name of Jesus.

Prayer requests: Please pray for the work of International Needs in Ghana, West Africa. Please pray for the full recovery of women who have been freed from the trokosi system. Pray for those that are still in slavery that they might be set free.

If you would like to donate to this ministry, see www.innetworkusa.org or contact Terry Heyward directly at terryh@innetworkusa.org.

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Mercy’s Story

Posted by Jane Beal on June 20, 2008

Mercy Senahe, an Ewe, grew up in the Volta region of Ghana, West Africa.  When Mercy was about eight years old, the fetish priest told her family they were cursed after a gold earring was lost because he believed that Mercy’s grandmother had stolen it.  To pay for this “theft,” and avoid the fatal consequences of the curse, the family planned to give Mercy, the youngest virgin daughter in the family, to the village shrine in Avakpe. 



”My age-mate came to tell me that I would be sent to some place and I would never come back,” Mercy relates today. “Some days later they told me that I should bathe because I was going to some place. I remembered what my age-mate had told me, so I went to the bush to hide. I stayed there until the night. When I came out, my grandfather beat me roughly. 



That same night they took me to cross the river to the shrine.”

After she arrived in the next village, she fell asleep on the ground.  When she woke up, her family was gone.  Women from the village shrine came and placed bracelets on her wrists and ankles.  They showed her how she must worship each of the idols in the shrine.  Mercy had become one of the “trokosi,” a slave to the gods.

Her new name in the shrine was “Gold.”  She was named after the item her grandmother had been accused of stealing.  She was the sacrifice meant to be appeasement for that crime, and she bore its name.

But Mercy did not understand this at the time.  In fact, she had no idea why she was in the shrine at all.  But she quickly learned to be terrified in her new environment. 

In the Avakpe shrine, Mercy was raped repeatedly by the priest, a ritualized form of sexual assault meant to symbolize the “marriage” between the trokosi and the shrine gods.

At about age twelve, Mercy gave birth to her first child, fathered by the priest.  She would have four children by him.  The priest had already fathered dozens of children borne by the other trokosi in the shrine.

Mercy had to farm to support herself and her children.  She was forced to work all day before she was allowed to eat.  She could not go to school.  Her children were not allowed to go to school either, but were instead forced to work with her on the farm to feed themselves.

Mercy tried to escape, but her family sent her back to the shrine.  She was completely trapped.

It was not until she was in her early twenties that Mercy was set free.  At that time, the International Needs Ghana (ING) team, a Christian ministry, came to negotiate for Mercy’s release. 

Intervention: International Needs Ghana, freeing the trokosi

Typically, ING involves all the stakeholders in the redemption process:  the priest, the women, their children, their families of origin, the Ewe village communities, the ING negotiators, and a Ghanaian government representative.  Once the priest agrees to set the women free, he performs a ritual inside the shrine to appease the idols.  Then, a second ceremony is performed, in which it is declared to the women, their families, and their Ewe communities that they are free:  no longer slaves, no longer trokosi.  The government official bears witness to this and signs a document to this effect.

Once women are set free, they often return to their families of origin and the villages where they formerly lived.  ING workers talk with their families to facilitate this re-integration process.  ING also offers education and work-skills training to the women through their Vocational Training Center (VTC) in Adidome so that they can economically support themselves and their children. 

At the VTC, women can learn mat-weaving, soap-making, bread-baking, hair-dressing, cloth-dyeing (“batik”), and dress-making, among other things.  Their older children attend ING schools in the Adidome.  Their younger children are cared for in an on-site nursery.  They themselves have the opportunity to learn reading, writing, and small business skills as well as health-care. 

Women are provided with one-on-one and group counseling to help them overcome their intense fears and traumatic experiences.  Many of them have been told that if they ever speak of what went on in the shrine, they or one of their family members would die.  They become free of these fears gradually.

ING staff share the knowledge and love of Jesus with these freed women, and many of them become passionate Christians.

Redemption:  Mercy Senahe, trokosi advocate

Today, Mercy is one of these Christian women. When ING negotiated for her release, her family would not accept her back because they were afraid of being cursed.  She went through the educational and work-skills training at the IN VTC, learning about baking and sewing, and she now works with ING and speaks publicly about her experiences.

I hope that many people in the world will hear her story and pray for the thousands of West African girls in Ghana, Togo, and Benin who, like Mercy before International Needs intervened, still need to be set free from the shrines, the trokosi system, and the terrors they have experienced.

“The tears in your eyes do not blind you,” African proverb from Togo, West Africa

For further information:  

WorldWide Religious News 

Ghanaian woman speaks out against tribal customs allowing slavery 

 

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Gabe’s Story

Posted by Jane Beal on April 24, 2008

One is six men is sexually assaulted in his life-time. Yet there are few ministries or organizations that specifically address the needs of male sexual assault survivors. One man, Gabe, has told his story and started an organization, Men Against Sexual Interpersonal Violence (MASIV), in response to this need.

I learned about Gabe through the Voices and Faces Project, and I am both amazed and thankful for his courage. His story, available on the Voices and Faces Project website, is reproduced here:

Like most men, Gabe never thought of rape as something that could happen to him. He didn’t think much about rape at all. He was 22 years old when that changed. “My then-wife and I got into an argument one night, and I left the house and drove to my favorite fishing hole to clear my head and think things over.” Once there, three men approached Gabe. “We struck up a typical ‘guy-type’ conversation. These were just guys on a fishing trip, like me, and I didn’t think anything was unusual about them until one of them pointed a gun at me. They beat me and raped me, and after that my whole life was different.”

Despite our stereotypical ideas of who is likely to be a rape victim, advocates estimate that one out of every six men will endure some form of sexual assault. But Gabe, who is partially deaf, may have been especially at risk. Rapists prey on vulnerability: a trusting child, someone walking alone, a college student who has been drinking, and the elderly.

Disabled persons are particularly vulnerable, and advocates estimate that up to 85% of the physically, emotionally or developmentally challenged have been victims. It is a staggering number, made all the more troubling when we consider the barriers to healing that exist for those who might find it difficult (literally) to speak up and get the help that they need.

After his rape, Gabe was left with bruises and broken ribs – but his greatest burden was his memory of the rape, which he carried in silence. “I just never talked about it. For six years I did not tell anyone what had happened to me. No one. I struggled mentally for a long time and I let my friends and family think that I was ‘just a messed up guy’,” says Gabe. “I had never heard a man talk about rape, and I just felt I was completely alone. But since I have come out with it, everyone understands what was ‘wrong’ with me all these years. I finally feel understood.”

Speaking out to those he trusted gave Gabe a sense of hope, and new purpose. At Northern Illinois University, he started a group called MASIV – Men Against Sexual Interpersonal Violence. The group involves men in education, advocacy, and community outreach. “We are talking about the issue of rape and what it means for men and women,” says Gabe, “Supporting both male and female victims is important. Finding a place like The Voices and Faces Project, where my story as a man mattered, made a difference for me, too. I have a way to share my story that will help others. Now I feel like things are changing, and that I am changing things.”

PRAY for Gabe and for the work of MASIV.

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